Tuesday, 17 January 2017


When I sat down to be interviewed by Marina Cantacuzino, Founder of The Forgiveness Project, I did not know what I would discover about my journey; that journey I call: murder to meaning. I did not know that in sharing with Marina, I would come to the realization that I did not choose to use the "F" word, but rather that the "F" word chose to use me. I discovered that the intention I carried in my heart from the day my Dad, Theodore, was murdered, March 1978, to that very moment in November 2016 being interviewed, the notion of forgiveness was as a constant companion. On the cover of Marina's book, The Forgiveness Project: Stories for a Vengeful Age, are actor, Emma Thompson's words, "...probably one of the most important projects in the world today." Yes. The project of sharing stories is an important one. After my conversation that stunning, sunny November day in London, UK, I left the tiny office where stories are sought, found, written, shared, and I walked down the street with a deep and profound awareness that it is indeed stories that sculpt us; stories that inform what constitutes our communities; stories that invite us into conversations with our very own selves about our meanings, our ethics, our morality. Our madness. Our joy. It is my belief that we are not naturally vengeful, rather that we are naturally protective and more times than not fear-full. Fear-full of rejection. Sawbonna offers acceptance. Sawbonna: I see you. Please see me. Sawbonna underscores and highlights our shared-humanity; Sawbonna reminds us that our lives, which are a fine and full fabric of stories, are scripts we can not always control, though our attitudes to those scripts can be proof-read, can be edited, can be re-storied. And in the re-storying we can infuse our relationship to Sawbonna/Restorative Justice's three values: Respect. Responsibility. Relationship. Sawbonna reminds us that our stories are part of a vast web of relationships, in which our script matters.


  1. I love this; "Sabonna reminds us that our stories are part of a vast web of relationships, in which our script matters."
    Here is to rewriting the script!

    1. Yes, Sarah. Here's to rewriting the script.

  2. Thank you for sharing this post. Inspiring thoughts. May rhe Restorative justice movement continue through stories we create on our journeys of Restoring Refreshing and Revitalising lives.